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Lucas's avatar

This is a beautiful exploration of ethos and pathos, not much about logos. I think they all matter in conversation. But in relationship, none of them matter.

Relationships are about seeing and hearing each other. Feeling each other's reality, without putting their reality in a box of the other classified things in our lives. In relationship most of us fundamentally want to be perceived in our oneness, our uniqueness, without judgement. And this is why relationship is hard. Our brains classify things for auto pilot, which is at odds with our partners auto pilot process, while we have to remain open to the manual process of relating.

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andyranaway's avatar

What I enjoy most about this story is that you two didn't go on like this for decades. You got down to it and eventually figured it out, that it couldn't go on like this. Sounds like maybe you were more so the one who made the decision, Danielle, but I appreciate your willingness to potray Miguel with equity and integrity. I think stories about how people challenge each other, even if it succumbs to arguments and heartbreak, are some of the most inspiring in their authenticity and color.

ThankYou for this.

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